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Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness

What if the person I'm forgiving doesn't change?

Getting another person to change isn't the point of forgiveness. Instead, it's about focusing on what you can learn to control now, especially your thoughts and emotions. Think more about how forgiveness can change your life by allowing for more peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. Forgiveness also can take away the power the other person has in your life.