Talking about teen drug use

If you are starting a conversation about substance use, choose a place where you and your teen are both comfortable. And choose a time when you're not likely to be interrupted. That means you both need to set aside phones.

It's also important to know when not to have a conversation.

When parents aren’t prepared to answer questions, they might let teens know that they can talk about the topic later. If a teen is intoxicated, wait until the teen is sober.

To talk to your teen about drugs:

• Ask your teen's views. Avoid lectures. Instead, listen to your teen's opinions and questions about drugs. Parents can assure teens that they can be honest and have a discussion without getting in trouble.
• Avoid arguments. Rather than arguing about a difference of fact or opinion, respond with, "Tell me more about that."
• Discuss reasons not to use drugs. Avoid scare tactics. Emphasize how drug use can affect the things that are important to your teen. Some examples might be sports performance, driving, health or appearance.
• Consider media messages. Social media, television programs, movies and songs can make drug and alcohol use seem common or glamorous. Talk about what your teen sees and hears.
• Discuss ways to resist peer pressure. Brainstorm with your teen about how to turn down offers of drugs or alcohol.
• Be ready to discuss your own drug use. Think about how you'll respond if your teen asks about your own drug and alcohol use. If you chose not to use drugs, explain why. If you did use drugs, share what the experience taught you.