Understand intimacy and desire

Sexual desire and sexual needs vary. Many things can affect a person's interest in sex, such as stress, illness, aging, family, career and social commitments. Whatever the cause, differences in sexual desire between partners can sometimes lead to feelings of isolation, frustration, rejection or resentment.

It's important to talk about:

• Intimacy needs. Intimacy typically involves more than just what a person wants from sex. Intimacy also may include emotional, spiritual, physical and recreational needs. If those needs aren't being met, you might be less interested in sex. Think about what you and your partner could do to improve intimacy throughout your life. Talk about it openly and honestly. Be willing to listen to each other's point of view.
• Differences in desire. People often have different levels of interest in sex at different times. Talk about those differences. Try to explore options that will satisfy both of you.